“Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our lives.” – C.S. Lewis
I have been thinking about Affection and how important it is in marriage. Author and psychologist Willard Harley says that ‘affection is the environment of a marriage’. I will be writing a bit about affection in the next couple weeks, and would love your thoughts on the subject.
Let’s Talk Affection
Day One: How to Be Affectionate: A Video
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I’m excited about this topic… There are so many people out there, women and men, depriving their obvious need for affection. It has been run in the ground that women feel secure, loved and cherished when they receive affection from their husbands. I think the human touch has a genuine healing aspect to it, no matter the gender.
Can’t wait for more info.l
Regina
I’m excited about this topic… There are so many people out there, women and men, depriving their obvious need for affection. It has been run in the ground that women feel secure, loved and cherished when they receive affection from their husbands. I think the human touch has a genuine healing aspect to it, no matter the gender.
Can’t wait for more info.l
Regina
I am with Marie, I LOVE affection! Affection is the way I feel loved, especially in crowded or new situations. My husband tends to be affectionate in private, not in public (which is when I NEED it). He comes from a family where affection was NEVER displayed and where affection WAS a very private thing. I am talking about very bland types of affection: holding hands, hugs, encircling the waist, etc. the typical things. This caused much difficulty in his parents marriage (ended in divorce) and it has been the reason his father’s remarriage has been successful (his second wife is VERY affectionate). Although aware of this, and although needing affection himself (if we have strained times, my husband CRAVES it, it makes him feel loved and accepted, he said so), he is NOT good at showing affection and we both need to work at it. I need to work at being affectionate in times of stress, to show him that I love him despite the world falling apart around us. He needs to work at a constant output (he tends to go in bursts). However, to be truthful, I can take on a LOT more affection than what I currently receive! So, all this long comment to say I welcome this lovely series and I am very thankful you are going to discuss this topic!!!
Hey Jessica!
Your choice of words is priceless! I think sometimes we see certain types of affection as ‘bland’ so we downplay them…and forget how the ‘easy stuff’ can be really valuable!!
I’m looking forward to really looking into affection a bit more, and writing about what I am finding out. Thanks for the encouragement and comment!!
I am with Marie, I LOVE affection! Affection is the way I feel loved, especially in crowded or new situations. My husband tends to be affectionate in private, not in public (which is when I NEED it). He comes from a family where affection was NEVER displayed and where affection WAS a very private thing. I am talking about very bland types of affection: holding hands, hugs, encircling the waist, etc. the typical things. This caused much difficulty in his parents marriage (ended in divorce) and it has been the reason his father’s remarriage has been successful (his second wife is VERY affectionate). Although aware of this, and although needing affection himself (if we have strained times, my husband CRAVES it, it makes him feel loved and accepted, he said so), he is NOT good at showing affection and we both need to work at it. I need to work at being affectionate in times of stress, to show him that I love him despite the world falling apart around us. He needs to work at a constant output (he tends to go in bursts). However, to be truthful, I can take on a LOT more affection than what I currently receive! So, all this long comment to say I welcome this lovely series and I am very thankful you are going to discuss this topic!!!
Hey Jessica!
Your choice of words is priceless! I think sometimes we see certain types of affection as ‘bland’ so we downplay them…and forget how the ‘easy stuff’ can be really valuable!!
I’m looking forward to really looking into affection a bit more, and writing about what I am finding out. Thanks for the encouragement and comment!!
I love affection, especially laying on my husband’s lap while he pets my hair. That’s the best. I don’t know if affection is my “love language”, but I definitely appreciate it. My husband is pretty good about being affectionate, but I have to remind him since he doesn’t “need” it as much as I do to (he needs good quality conversation).
Hey Marie! I need reminding as well! That’s one of the reasons I figured I would write about affection…it will help me get it in my head!! Talking love languages…when I took the survey, there was no clear winner as to which “1″ was my love language. I had 3 that were all about the same!!
I love affection, especially laying on my husband’s lap while he pets my hair. That’s the best. I don’t know if affection is my “love language”, but I definitely appreciate it. My husband is pretty good about being affectionate, but I have to remind him since he doesn’t “need” it as much as I do to (he needs good quality conversation).
Hey Marie! I need reminding as well! That’s one of the reasons I figured I would write about affection…it will help me get it in my head!! Talking love languages…when I took the survey, there was no clear winner as to which “1″ was my love language. I had 3 that were all about the same!!