I was thinking about the marriage series our church finished recently. Our Pastor said something that really resonated with me, and maybe it will with you too:
There is NO NORMAL MARRIAGE!
He said that if you sat down with any married couple who you think “have it all together” and they were honest with you, you would shortly realize that they deal with stuff just like everyone else!
Just hearing that statement, took some pressure off me.
I know that My Incredible Husband™ and I have a unique marriage, and I can look around at other couples we know, and no one really does marriage like us.
I don’t mean that we do it better, just different. The fact is why would any other couple do marriage like us?
We are two unique individuals with different life experiences living out our relationship. So why would we expect two other people (with different backgrounds/experiences/personalities/likes/dislikes) to be like ‘us’ in our marriage?
I know this seems like common sense, but I know that I have had the thought:
“I wish we could ___________ (fill in the blank for yourself) like ‘so and so’. ”
So, for today: Stop looking at other peoples marriages and wondering why you can’t have it the way they have it. Spend more time looking at your marriage and thinking about ways that it can improve, because there is NO NORMAL MARRIAGE… everyone can improve their marriage!
(Stu here: This post from my Beautiful Wife™ reminded me of a great scene in Lethal Weapon 4. Be mindful of the S-bomb near the end – if that bothers you!)
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A great post! We all have to do what works for us; this is also a great reminder for when we (myself included) find ourselves judging other marriages – so NONE of our business.
Thats Awesome!!
There's a sign hanging in our family room that says, “Around Here Normal Is Just The Setting On The Dryer.” Anyone who really knows us, can attest to it's truth!