Comments on: 5 Reasons Why I Should Initiate Sex With My Wife http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/ Relationship Coaching and Advice Fri, 30 Jul 2010 03:49:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: 7 Links for Married Couples http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3272 7 Links for Married Couples Wed, 21 Jul 2010 02:19:52 +0000 http://www.themarryblogger.com/?p=877#comment-3272 [...] Great Discussion Post: 5 Reasons Why I Should Initiate Sex With My Wife I wrote this article more than a year ago, and it still is one of the most read, and most commented [...] [...] Great Discussion Post: 5 Reasons Why I Should Initiate Sex With My Wife I wrote this article more than a year ago, and it still is one of the most read, and most commented [...]

]]> By: michaelmybeloved http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3262 michaelmybeloved Sat, 17 Jul 2010 18:44:19 +0000 http://www.themarryblogger.com/?p=877#comment-3262 i also don't think it is "dishonest" to hold up a standard even higher because you realize the troubles that come from not having held that standard in your own life.<br><br>my own failures and sins (and they are many!) gives me the perfect perspective to be able to encourage people NOT to take the same road. it is done with an understanding of what happens when you take the wrong path. i also don't think it is “dishonest” to hold up a standard even higher because you realize the troubles that come from not having held that standard in your own life.

my own failures and sins (and they are many!) gives me the perfect perspective to be able to encourage people NOT to take the same road. it is done with an understanding of what happens when you take the wrong path.

]]> By: Michaelmybeloved http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3261 Michaelmybeloved Sat, 17 Jul 2010 18:41:22 +0000 http://www.themarryblogger.com/?p=877#comment-3261 it isn't an "old crusty card"....it is the standard that has been in place since the One who created love, marriage and sex, created it. apologizing for the truth should never be needed. <br><br>I wish more than anything that I had never known intimacy with any man other than my husband. In the Lord's mercy, most of my past has been blotted from my mind....and being with my husband is more amazing than anything I ever knew before that was, ultimately, marred by sin. it isn't an “old crusty card”….it is the standard that has been in place since the One who created love, marriage and sex, created it. apologizing for the truth should never be needed.

I wish more than anything that I had never known intimacy with any man other than my husband. In the Lord's mercy, most of my past has been blotted from my mind….and being with my husband is more amazing than anything I ever knew before that was, ultimately, marred by sin.

]]> By: Stu Gray http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3131 Stu Gray Tue, 15 Jun 2010 22:24:39 +0000 http://www.themarryblogger.com/?p=877#comment-3131 Lol. Part of me wants to pull the "Old Crusty Christian" card and say "Those kids shouldn't be sleeping together before marriage!!" But that would be completely dishonest, since we messed it up and had sex before marriage. <br><br>I wonder...just wonder...if couples WEREN'T having sex before marriage, would we need a "mutually enjoyable" sex life - because, if the couple were abstaining...they wouldn't have anything to Compare their sex life TOO - only to their new spouse...And they could explore their sexuality and their sex life together without comparing to previous experiences. Lol. Part of me wants to pull the “Old Crusty Christian” card and say “Those kids shouldn't be sleeping together before marriage!!” But that would be completely dishonest, since we messed it up and had sex before marriage.

I wonder…just wonder…if couples WEREN'T having sex before marriage, would we need a “mutually enjoyable” sex life – because, if the couple were abstaining…they wouldn't have anything to Compare their sex life TOO – only to their new spouse…And they could explore their sexuality and their sex life together without comparing to previous experiences.

]]> By: Jo@save my marriage today http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3114 Jo@save my marriage today Sat, 12 Jun 2010 16:00:43 +0000 http://www.themarryblogger.com/?p=877#comment-3114 Maybe not the first thing, but certainly up there.<br><br>Never ceases to amaze me how many couples get married and later realize they have sexual incompatibilities. <br><br>It's important to make sure you have a mutually enjoyable sex life before you take the big step. Maybe not the first thing, but certainly up there.

Never ceases to amaze me how many couples get married and later realize they have sexual incompatibilities.

It's important to make sure you have a mutually enjoyable sex life before you take the big step.

]]> By: Stu Gray http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3110 Stu Gray Fri, 11 Jun 2010 06:18:21 +0000 http://www.themarryblogger.com/?p=877#comment-3110 Thats Awesome Stefan - Thanks for chiming in! Talking about your sex life definitely helps...especially when you do it OUT of the bedroom, so all the emotions of the "moment" aren't involved! Thats Awesome Stefan – Thanks for chiming in! Talking about your sex life definitely helps…especially when you do it OUT of the bedroom, so all the emotions of the “moment” aren't involved!

]]> By: Stu Gray http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3109 Stu Gray Fri, 11 Jun 2010 06:14:16 +0000 http://www.themarryblogger.com/?p=877#comment-3109 I agree with you Lady - Even though many denials in a row cause great harm in marriages - you can see that from several of the comments here already!! thanks for the comment! I agree with you Lady – Even though many denials in a row cause great harm in marriages – you can see that from several of the comments here already!! thanks for the comment!

]]> By: Lady http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3092 Lady Wed, 09 Jun 2010 13:44:53 +0000 http://www.themarryblogger.com/?p=877#comment-3092 Hello,<br>I realize this post is old, but just like the previous poster, I would like to share my thoughts as the woman in a very similar situation.<br><br>My husband and I have the same problem for the same reason described in this article. <br><br>It is important for a man to initiate sex, regardless of how many times "yes" or "no" is heard. It makes us feel DESIRED. If you stop initiating, it won't be long before she starts to feel like you don't want to have sex with her or even worse- wonders who you want to have sex with! <br><br>My advice is not to take it to heart. As difficult as that is, she will love you for it! Hello,
I realize this post is old, but just like the previous poster, I would like to share my thoughts as the woman in a very similar situation.

My husband and I have the same problem for the same reason described in this article.

It is important for a man to initiate sex, regardless of how many times “yes” or “no” is heard. It makes us feel DESIRED. If you stop initiating, it won't be long before she starts to feel like you don't want to have sex with her or even worse- wonders who you want to have sex with!

My advice is not to take it to heart. As difficult as that is, she will love you for it!

]]> By: marriage and communication http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3072 marriage and communication Sat, 05 Jun 2010 13:20:30 +0000 http://www.themarryblogger.com/?p=877#comment-3072 Hello everybody, <br>I am glad to read that our marriage is not the only one with these issues. I was the one who always initiated the sex and was annoyed when I got rejected. The thing that really changed our swx life was to talk about it. It sort of released the tension a bit and we can talk more freely about sex and as result have more sex too. My wife is now more aware of my needs and that helps me to ask for sex.<br><br>Thanks for the good post and all the comments.<br>Regards<br>Stefan Hello everybody,
I am glad to read that our marriage is not the only one with these issues. I was the one who always initiated the sex and was annoyed when I got rejected. The thing that really changed our swx life was to talk about it. It sort of released the tension a bit and we can talk more freely about sex and as result have more sex too. My wife is now more aware of my needs and that helps me to ask for sex.

Thanks for the good post and all the comments.
Regards
Stefan

]]> By: tellyy http://www.themarryblogger.com/marriage/sex-marriage/have-sex-with-my-wife/comment-page-1/#comment-3026 tellyy Wed, 02 Jun 2010 10:29:39 +0000 http://www.themarryblogger.com/?p=877#comment-3026 sex shouldn't be the first thing in a marriage,but i guess that's what married people do lol. sex shouldn't be the first thing in a marriage,but i guess that's what married people do lol.

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