How To Find A Wife – The Marry Blogger Way

Shannon O over at Confessions of a Loving Wife was thinking about her marriage – and actually broke down her process of finding her husband into ‘6 general steps that someone else could easily replicate’.

I don’t think my Beautiful Wife™ and I can easily break our story down into ‘easy to follow steps’, but let me try.

DISCLAIMER: While these steps worked well for us, your results and mileage may vary!

How to Find a Wife – The Marry Blogger Way

1. Work at a radio station where you don’t get normal holidays.

   When we met, I was the night personality at the local Top 40 station in Nashville.  Work was my life, and I was constantly at the station – being that I was young, had no life, and wanted to be Ryan Seacrest.  (Actually, he was just starting Idol when I started dating my Beautiful Wife™).  Radio is constantly on – so, I didn’t get lots of holidays off – Like Christmas or New Years.  We usually had to work a shift or two, but for some random holidays – Like Memorial Day – I would take the night off.

2. Be casually acquainted with the woman who runs the largest nightclub in town.

   Being a Top 40 radio personality entails being at all the cool hotspots.  Including bars and clubs.  I wasn’t a big ‘partier’ when I went to the clubs – I knew that I had a job to do.  Most Saturday nights, I was on the air live from the largest club in Nashville.  I had a casual acquaintance with the General Manager of the club.  She and I had a working knowledge of each other – and mutual respect.  I knew she ran the club like a business (unlike lots of club managers), and she knew that when I was there, I wasn’t drinking it up, but doing a good job promoting the club on the air.

3. Get tickets to a famous band performing on an ‘off’-holiday.

   Dave Matthews Band was coming to town on Memorial Day.  They were touring with Vertical Horizon at the time.  Surprisingly, I had Memorial Day night off, and was looking forward to seeing Dave Matthews at the large outdoor amphitheatre (that isn’t there anymore!!).

4. Have a good friend unintentionally set you up with a date, then have that same friend act like a four year old when you show up for dinner.

My friend Brian was the intern on the radio station’s morning show, so he also knew the manager of the club.  He also had the unfortunate job of filling in for me on my night off.  The GM at the club wanted a ticket to the show – she wanted to see Vertical Horizon— but she couldn’t get them.  Brian suggested she call me because I had an extra ticket.  She took his advice, and in exchange for the ticket, she said she would buy me dinner.  Fair enough. Brutha’s gotta eat. Right?  I get to the Mexican Restaurant we chose – and low and behold, there is my friend Brian, who said he wanted to stop by before he went on the air for me. Then the female GM pulls up. And, no joke, he starts prancing around chanting “You are on a da-ate, You are on a da-ate.”  Then he leaves.   AWKWARD.

5. Spend the night talking – in essence, missing the famous band’s show.

   We spent dinner talking and enjoying each other, and by the time we finally arrived at the amphitheater, Vertical Horizon had already performed.  She was bummed. We spent the rest of the night talking on the hill – I don’t remember any of the concert.  (Perhaps this was her subtle way of getting back at me for missing Vertical Horizon. Perhaps not.)

6. Play a prank on your friend, setting yourself up for a first kiss.

   Well, since we had an awkward beginning to the night (see #4 above) we wanted to play a joke on Brian.  We saw a couple escorted out of the arena – and we laughed, saying – “Maybe they were making out!!”  This was one of the first times I knew we were going to be a couple. My future Beautiful Wife™ says – ‘Let’s call Brian and tell him we were thrown out because we were making out on the hill!’  She’s sneaky that one.   Since he was still on the radio for an hour or so, we told him we would meet at a local Waffle House (or, as I like to call it: Dinner and a Show!)   My future Beautiful Wife™ –- again, showing her brilliance, says, “Well, we told him that we were making out – he’s going to expect us to be all lovey-dovey.”  See, I told you she was sneaky.

7. Live happily ever after.

   That was Memorial Day 2000. We were married on Memorial Day Weekend in 2003. Had our kool kiddo in 2005. We celebrate 10 years this year.

Like I said, these might not be the right steps for you to find a wife, but for us, it was the perfect recipe.

How did you meet your spouse? Have any tips on how to land a good woman?
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