a post from the Beautiful Wife™
I went to “The Y” to have a health evaluation done to help me to see where I need to improve and come up with a game plan to achieve my health goals. It’s amazing what you can learn from this type of evaluation.
Going in, I thought I knew the areas that needed improvement — was I surprised!
There were a couple of things that I guessed correctly like my weight and my blood pressure. However there were a couple that I completely missed.
I have always been a runner, so I believed that my lower body strength is good but my upper body strength is limited. When the trainer tested my bicep strength I was really in shock! It was the one area that I rated “excellent”! Who would have thought?
When the trainer tested my flexibility, I thought it would be weak — but I had no idea how weak it was! The worst score I could have on their scale was a 25. I scored 26. Ouch.
Having someone evaluate and ‘test’ me , allowed me to see the results in writing. It will also help me to to focus on weak areas and not stress about my ‘ok’ areas.
What would it look like if there was an evaluation like this for our marriages? What areas of my marriage would I excel in? What areas need improvement? What goals could I set to help me focus on weak areas?
So, I did some hunting and found some marriage evaluations for all of us to try out!
The Marriage Self-Evaluation Test
A 22 Question Marriage Quiz from Dr. John Gottman (one of the best marriage and relationship researchers out there today)
Family Dynamics has a marriage evaluation, and they also offer conferences to help your relationship.
For intimacy and Spiritual Stability, here is one from Ron Marinari.
Here’s a quick Marriage Pop Quiz to test how well you know your spouse!
I hope you have fun with the marriage evaluations… I look forward to hearing about your results!
photo by ~ggvic~
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Thank you for your comments!!
Our pastor recently did a series on marriage and one of the most significant things I got from his teachings is that our marriage isn't just about “living happily ever after” but about helping each other become all we can be so that God can use us for His glory! I think that makes all the hard times worth it knowing that we are being shaped through the process… God is so good!
It's always a good thing to accurately know where you are before you begin to work on changing. This isn't to discourage us, but to encourage us later as to the progress we've made. How many couples we've met would rather put their head in the sand and pretend things are well, when it is obvious to others that this isn't true. They arrogantly believe if they avoid the pitfalls they'll be okay. But how unhealthy for marriage this way of thinking is! God wants us to humble ourselves (taking assessment quizzes like you've provided) and discover our weaknesses so we can present them to Him for growth in godliness and a stronger marriage. It's not just for us – but in order to make us useful in His Kingdom! We should boast in our weaknesses because when we do this He makes us strong, and we – more than anyone else – knows where the strength has come from! It's all from Him and for Him.
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