Sometimes I get so bogged down with life that I forget to communicate. I am running here and there, and forget that I need to focus on my wife.
I need to communicate. I need to listen. I need to actively care. I need to actively participate in our relationship. I believe that my marriage is the most important thing that I am involved in in my life.
So, in hopes of helping communication …I decided to write a list of fun and easy ways to help spark communication in marriage.
I also have selected certain points on the list to highlight in other Marry Blogger entries – Feel free to click thru to get more in depth ideas! Also, I believe that most of my ideas will cross the gender lines – so if it says “his” or “hers” – don’t get hung up on the gender, just go with the spirit of the idea and TRY IT!
118 Fun and Easy Marriage Tips
1. Act like you are on the same team
2. Ask about her thoughts from church, synagogue, mosque the last time you went
3. Ask about what he/she likes ‘sexually’ and ‘in the bedroom’
4. Ask each other questions – deep probing questions
5. Ask more questions – light hearted fun questions
6. Ask even more questions – how do they deal with it when…happens questions
7. Ask what they have on their agenda for the day, the week, the month
8. Assume he/she is on your side, not against you
9. Be a visionary in your relationship – dream about your future and talk about it
10. Be more passionate at home, not just at work. Bring home your passion, not just negativity
11. Be passionate in your communication with each other (that doesn’t have to mean yelling)
12. Be real with her
13. Brush your teeth before talking with each other
14. Bubble baths are a good thing
15. Build a dream list/dream folder together
16. Build them up
17. Call each other during the day
18. Catch them doing something well, then compliment them on it
19. Clean up the house without them asking
20. Lead a ministry together
21. Comment on how good they look
22. Comment on the new clothing or how something you like about the clothes
23. Comment on the new hairstyle
25. Dance together at the end credits of a movie
26. Do devotions together
27. Don’t jump to conclusions or assume they mean the worst
28. Don’t masturbate (mainly guys) -then you have to rely on your wife as your only sexual outlet. This forces you to communicate!!
29. Enjoy small things
30. Find an open air band or orchestra and go dance together
31. Flirt with each other publicly
32. Get a babysitter
33. Give a little bit more in the relationship
34. Give them a compliment in public
35. Go back to the first place you had a date
36. Go have coffee
37. Go shopping together and engage in the experience
38. Go to a park and swing with each other
39. Go to a park and walk around
40. Have Sex – once a week at least
41. Have Sex – even if you have to schedule it
42. Have Sex – Kitchen,couch, bedroom, – its your house!
43. Have Sex – forbidden places – don’t get arrested
44. Have More Sex – yeah, more than once a week would be nice.
45. Hold hands
46. Increase your conversations about sex with each other
47. Jump on him when he gets home
48. Keep short accounts (forgive easily and quickly)
49. Ladies – be elusive and mysterious for him – keep him guessing a bit
50. Lead a project together at church
51. Listen better
52. Love them into the future (think the best about them)
53. Make decisions together
54. Make her dinner and then offer to do the dishes then massage her feet
55. Make the bedroom off limits to kids
56. Massages – Non sexual
57. Massages – sexual
58. Never embarrass them in public
59. Never forget to keep learning about them
60. Never introduce them as “My old lady”, “The Ball and Chain”, “Stupid”, “Fatso”
61. Never put them down in public
62. Notice little things and say something positive (tell her you like her shoes – girls like that sort of thing – Thanks American President)
63. Open up about something that scares you
64. Open up about something that excites you
65. Open up about something that has hurt you
66. Pay attention to their dislikes
67. Pay attention to their likes
68. Play easy to get…and be uninhibited in the bedroom
69. Play hard to get…but then be uninhibited in the bedroom
70. Play games with each other (board)
71. Pray together
72. Pray together – for family
73. Pray together – not just simple prayers, but deep prayers
74. Pray together – simple prayers, not deep prayers
75. Put all your money into one account, don’t have separate accounts.
77. REMEMBER that they are your spouse
78. Remember the things that you fell in love with in the first place
79. Remember they have infinite souls and that you aren’t done getting to know them
80. Remember your spouse is a sensual sexual being
82. Send IMs to each other during the day
83. Serve them
84. Set a time to talk to each other after the kids are in bed. Make it a habit. SCHEDULE it
85. Show her how you like to be touched
86. Show him how you like to be touched
87. Sleep Holding hands
88. Sleep touching a part of your spouse
89. Slow down
90. Stop being a workaholic
91. Stop working at 9 pm (if you are work at home parents)
92. Study the Bible together
93. Take dance lessons
94. Take up a hobby together
95. Talk about work with your spouse
96. Talk about your favorite tv show together
97. Talk about your marriage 5 10 and 20 years down the road
98. Talk well to them
99. Tease one another sexually
100. Tell each other you dreams
101. Tell each other your desires
102. Tell each other your fantasies
103. Tell him/her she looks terrific
104. Tell him/her something from Childhood that she doesn’t know
105. Tell him/her what you like
106. Tell him gently what you don’t like, better yet…
107. Show Him
108. Tell him he is amazing and you respect him
109. Tell him something from Childhood that he doesn’t know
110. Treat them how you would like to be treated
111. Turn off the computer
112. Turn off the iPod
113. Turn off the radio
114.Turn off the TV
115. Watch your favorite TV show together
116. Write a letter to him/her
117.Write a story together
118. Have Sex.
Now its your turn…
What tips can you add to the list that help communication in your marriage?
Photo by Ed Yourdon
