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I was reading an article in Success magazine talking about the upcoming trend of consignment and thrift stores. During this time of recession, these type of stores are becoming big business.
The Beautiful Wife™ will be so overjoyed with the news. Yet my mind went in a completely different direction.
We Don’t Live in a Throwaway Marriage.
The “Throwaway Mentality” is everywhere in our society. Use it, then trash it…we live in a world of fast, and now and next! (How many old cell phones do I have sitting in my house? Six.)
The article I was reading suggested that in these tough economic times, instead of just pitching it, we are recycling, or making use of older items in better and different ways.
What about our marriages?
We should Stop the “Throwaway Mentality”, and not be so quick to throw away our marriages.
Think back to your wedding day. The vows you spoke? Weren’t they more than empty words and platitudes?
Didn’t they mean anything!?!
Here are 4 ways to Re:vive our Marriages
Re:Cycle: Recycle an old date that you enjoyed when you were first falling in love. An old friend of mine says “What were you doing when you were successful?” Think of those things and recycle them back into your marriage.
Re:Kindle: Pay attention to your husband or wife. Spend time together. Go to sleep together. Find out about each others day at work. Take a walk together. Spend 15 minutes after dinner talking at the table.
Re:New: I am thinking about asking my wife to marry me again this year and renew our vows. How cool would that be?! Renew your vows, your commitments you made to one another.
Re:Vamp: The way you fight, the way you handle the in-laws, the way you handle your parents, your dollars and cents.
Revamp your thinking and your responses. If the way you have thought about something or handled something is not working, try something new! Husbands and Wives should be on the same team, standing side by side, facing the issue together.
Our spouse is NOT the problem, the ISSUE is the problem.
Before we throwaway our marriage relationships when we have a disagreement (or disagreements), we need to step back and look at the issue (or issues). Look at them together, from the “same team” perspective. Then, tackle them together.
Remember those vows? You were stating that you would solve problems together. Not toss your marriage in the trash.
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