Every Halloween, my Beautiful Wife™ and I dress up together. Its something we started doing when we were dating. Actually, I don’t think there has been a Halloween that we haven’t dressed up together in 9 years.
Being that her birthday is November 1st, it has always been a BIG holiday in her life, so we make the most of it!
Now, we get the kool kiddo involved. We have been Batman, Robin and Batgirl (I voted Wonder Woman, but was unfortunately overruled), Woody, Buzz and Jessie, and Mickey, Minnie and Goofy (that was me, by the way). [We are currently thinking about what famous threesome to dress up as this year - send me your ideas. It would be greatly appreciated!]
We have this tradition that bonds us together. It’s special to us, its something we do with each other(even if we DO wait til the last minute to put the costumes together!) We also have the memories of the shared time together, the decision making process, plus all the pictures to go back to to help us remember.
Its ONE way to keep the electricity in our marriage.
What about the electricity in your marriage?
Is it still there?
Sometimes you take for granted the good things you have in your life.
Couple weeks back, the Electric Company turned off the electricity in our house, only for an hour, yet it was enough to get really really hot! We didn’t have tv, fans, lights, we were just twiddling our thumbs. And, being that my Beautiful Wife™ and I are both home based workers, we were literally ‘in the dark’.
But we did get to hang out with the kiddo for about an hour. So thats what we did.
You don’t realize how big a deal electricity is until it’s gone!
Is there electricity in your marriage? Has it gone away? How do you get it back, how do you get the spark going again? (I have written some ideas in some previous posts)
Keeping the Voltage up (If you know what I mean)
Quick thoughts on generating electricity in your marriage again:
- Build Traditions: Sit down to dinner every night with the family. The new tradition in our household is Pancakes every Saturday Morning. All three of us get up, and make pancakes together. It is something enjoyable, and we are building into our marriage and our family by making it a point to do something together. Holidays are a great time to build your traditions. Something that you do with your spouse (or family). (As I write this, July 4th is a week away – and a great time to think about sparking some electric in your marriage by starting a new tradition)
- Make it Special: We make most of our Halloween costumes. Well, let me rephrase that. We go and FIND most of our costumes, and don’t buy them “off the rack”. They are unique to us. No, I wasn’t the prettiest Goofy out there, but who cares. We made it together. And it was special and fun for us together.
- Do it together: This is a continuation of the first two but needs to be said by itself. You can do something special by yourself. And you can make little traditions in your own world. But the point is to do them together so you build your marriage and have something to remember and enjoy together later on. Which leads to…
- Take the Time to Remember: Pull out the picture book and look at the pictures from good times and good events in your marriage. (we have our wedding pictures, baby pictures and all the pictures from other various events – like every Halloween!!) Why not get lost in the fun and terrific times – draw those to your memory instead of pulling up every negative thing that your spouse has done?
Don’t Lose the Electricity!
It’s easy to get lost in the day to day of life and then wake up and realize what was once an “electric” marriage is now just a “dead wire”.
It takes work, commitment, and action. Dedication, sacrifice and “want to”.
But you know that.
And I believe that you want that electricity back (or a little extra jolt!) or you wouldn’t have read this far!
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