Here is a recent conversation I had…in my head:
Why hasn’t my beautiful wife™ initiated s-e-x in a while? I start to feel bad for myself. I want to have s-e-x. But I want her to want it as much as I do. Feeling sorry for myself, I jump to: I didn’t marry someone who wants or appreciates s-e-x like I do.
Maybe she just doesn’t understand how much I enjoy s-e-x. Maybe she just wants to hold out. Maybe she doesn’t think about s-e-x at all. I must have made a mistake in marrying her.
Hold it.
If I would just do it – Talk to her about having s-e-x – instead of waiting, instead of stinky thinking, instead of getting caught up in my own head – the probability of actually having s-e-x would be greater.
Its not about who initiated s-e-x the last time. We shouldn’t keep score. We both be should initiating s-e-x, but sometimes, I need to man up and introduce the thought.
Why? Because she can’t read my mind either.
Wow, What a concept.
***FYI*** I had to laugh when I saw a post yesterday from fellow blogger Annalea Sommerville on this same topic, from the female point of view… check out her post at Your Marriage Restored!!**
Photo by Thomas Hawk
The Marry Blogger has Moved!
I wanted to let you know that I am still writing about marriage and relationships It just happens that it is at my personal site: StuGray.com
Please hop over there and keep up to date with our writing about marriage and healthy relationships!!
Again, the website is StuGray.com. You can sign up (if you haven't already) for blog updates here.
{ 1 comment… read it below or add one }
“Why? Because she can’t read my mind either.”
My wife knows that I am always up for sex. She doesn't need to read my mind. She knows my mind. She chooses not to care. She on the other hand is only willing to have sex once every 2 – 5 weeks. I DO care, so I pretty much never initiate. There's no point. So now, sexually, I usually just leave her alone.