I think joy and sweetness and affection are a spiritual path. We’re here to know God, to love and serve God, and to be blown away by the beauty and miracle of nature. You just have to get rid of so much baggage to be light enough to dance, to sing, to play. You don’t have time to carry grudges; you don’t have time to cling to the need to be right. – Anne Lamott
Today begins a series of posts on Affection.
As I began to look into affection as a significant part of a successful marriage – something that is important for both husband and wife – I came across this quote that I mentioned last week in the introduction to this series, from Willard Harley: “Affection is the environment of a marriage, while sex is an event”. As I kept thinking about that statement, another image of affection kept coming to my mind.
The thought I kept having was that Affection adds a ‘sweetness’ to marriage.
Affection Makes a Marriage SWEET
Affection is Sensual not sexual.I mean sensual in that it involves the senses. A hug. A kiss. Warm words. A stroke of the hair. Holding hands while strolling thru the mall.
Affection is Well Timed. It’s showing your love for your spouse because you can. Not just because you want sex. Many times affectionate behaviors happen when you can’t have sex because of timing, or where you are.
Affection is Engaging. It lets them know they are on your mind. It brings you closer together. Physically, and emotionally.
Affection is Easy. Those simple little things that you did while you were dating? You stop doing them. But you need to keep on doing them. That will keep the sweetness of your relationship going!!
Affection is Tender It’s playful, light and fun. Affection is something to share between the two of you.
In my mind, that is affection: Sensual, Well timed, Engaging, Easy Tender behaviors that draw you closer together and keep the sweet atmosphere of affection alive in your marriage.
What do you think?
Do you have a definition of Affection?
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I really am grateful what you’re doing here!
As far as I am concerned, this is RIGHT on: a much better definition that I could have penned myself, but exactly what I would have said!
As far as I am concerned, this is RIGHT on: a much better definition that I could have penned myself, but exactly what I would have said!
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