Comments on: What is Worse, Porn or Fear?

By: Heather

Heather — Tue, 12 Jul 2011 23:21:33 +0000

Thank you for your post, and sharing your life with others! It is important to view ourselves in light of our standing before God, broken before Him and strong because of His grace.

I like Jayme’s comment too, because I would rather have a husband who struggled with anxiety than a husband who struggled with pornography…it’s not as damaging to a marriage relationship. I do think that fear and anxiety can lead to pornography use though.

By: Stu Gray

Stu Gray — Tue, 17 Aug 2010 14:05:00 +0000

I think what she was trying to say is that we both are broken. They might be different types of broken…but all the same, we are both broken. How we deal with each others brokenness is the question she was trying to raise.

You said it “with grace”…and I think that was the point! Thanks for the comment Jayme!

By: jayme

jayme — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 18:24:00 +0000

It is different.

Both are sins, sure. But they aren’t the same. Both should be treated with sensitivity. With grace. But that doesn’t make them the same.

Pornography is (or at least can be) an addiction. A tendency to fear isn’t. It’d be like comparing a meth addiction with a gossipping habit. Yeah, both are bad. But they are different. There are reasons men go after porn. They should be looked at and examined and dealt with. Chances are there are significant, deep reaching lies he has believed for years causing him to look at porn. It doesn’t make it more of a sin, but it doesn’t make it the same either.

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By: Debi Walter

Debi Walter — Wed, 21 Jul 2010 00:47:09 +0000

Great point, Julie. But we need to make sure our girlfriends don't replace the intimacy we have with our husbands. He should be our closest friend in this life! And because we're so different it takes work and selflessness that is demonstrated so beautifully in this post. I've talked to a lot of wives frustrated because their husbands aren't like their girlfriends – well, we should see this as a good thing! I wouldn't want my husband to act like my girlfriends, really! I think what their expressing is the lack of closeness we can all feel from time to time, with our spouse. Instead of allowing the discontent room to fester – let's talk about it in humility and love.

Great post!
Debi

By: The Beautiful Wife

The Beautiful Wife — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 18:09:22 +0000

Thank you so much for your comments Julie!

It has taken me a while to figure out how important it is to have female friends to walk out life with… the enemy wants nothing more then for us to isolate ourselves!

By: Julie Sibert

Julie Sibert — Tue, 20 Jul 2010 17:18:58 +0000

Such a tremendous post overflowing with humility and realness. Reminds me once again about the treacherous road that marriage often is…because of the struggles and challenges that each spouse brings to the table. Your post also is a good reminder of what it means as a friend to come alongside one another…your willingness to listen to your friend and not try to fix everything is a tremendous reflection of compassion. Often when I am talking to wives, I encourage them to have safe confidential female friends and to have a close relationship with the Lord…this support is priceless (also for husbands as well…that they have a support network of trusted male friends and the Lord). Anyway, thanks for the post…great vulnerability…